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The B in LGBT




Keep your mouth shut.

The only thing worse

than being gay is bi.

What? You can’t make up

your mind? Close your

eyes and imagine telling

your mom you’re part gay

like the yolk of an egg

is yellow. Put your pants

on backwards but walk

forward because you’re young

and will probably get over

it. If you don’t, don’t worry

not everyone gets into Heaven.

Wait, where are you going?

Your Waldorf salad!


I wrote this poem from the perspective of an intolerant person to show my support for the bisexual community. It’s cruel but some people think it’s okay to talk to a bisexual person as if their orientation is not a valid one. In the end, the bisexual person is strong enough to walk away without even giving an explanation for her exit.


I’ve never met a bisexual person before but I feel like on the sexual spectrum, I have leanings toward the identity that I’ve never particularly embraced myself. I once wrote in a college paper that I would never come out as bisexual because there was no support for it. In the same vein, a lack of support for poetry in the contemporary world has never stopped me from writing it, so why would I deny a part of my identity on the same grounds? It doesn’t make any sense.


Now that I’m in my mid-thirties and rapidly reaching forty, I see no reason to keep anything in my life a secret. After you’ve been hospitalized in a psychiatric facility a few times and received electroshock therapy, everything else seems trivial by comparison. Admitting I’m attracted to women isn’t going to change my marriage of seven years. I am fully committed to my husband and have no plans to pick up a mate on the side.


So why say anything? Why write poems? I dig for the truth any chance I get. I think the world plays well at deception. Marketing is a big part of that but so is politics and big business. We are reared to be conformists and when it comes down to sexuality, that means being straight no matter how we are individually wired. I imagine a world where we are free to be who we are without fear of reprisal. Maybe civil rights will eventually catch up to the LGBT world. In the meantime, we have to speak out.


Regardless of what how you identify, it is nice to feel a part of a community. One such support group can be found online at: http://emptyclosets.com/. Of course, you can always form your own. Write your own poem of support and share it here. I would love to see it!

About missyrogers

Lifelong Michigander, early 40s, craft addict, chihuahua collector, coffee drinker, recovering human being, bipolar I, electronic music lover, bullshit caller, 5' tall, my blood is organic, and I refuse to be anything else. I will write until I die.


4 thoughts on “Bi-Winning

  1. Keep writing because your poetry just keeps getting more and more enjoyable!! 🙂

    Posted by Debi | May 30, 2013, 9:05 pm
  2. Bravo! Another great (and potentially controversial) poem. Keep them coming.

    Posted by Ray Pantle | May 30, 2013, 10:58 pm

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